Parenting, I am convinced is one of the absolute most difficult tasks one could take on in a lifetime. Not only are we here to work on our own stuff, to then bring in another life or 4 other lives to facilitate adds an entirely new level of opportunity. To increase the fun, blending a family with added parents, grandparents and family friends of those who were there before you or your partner and their children, we can only smile.
Funny how just writing that made me a little tired. 🙂
Well, the truth is my husband and I struggle daily with knowing how to make the best decisions for our individual self and our family. Most days we feel pretty defeated, while we continually give ourself permission to simply exist in whatever energy is present. Often remembering they are here to learn, grow and expand in their own way as well. This part, in the big picture, has very little to do with us as parents, rather the personality and purpose they arrived with. Our role is to simply do our work and be as grounded, reliable and loving as possible in all situations.
Every person is uniquely different, therefore we arrive as such. Perhaps as parents we forget this from time to time and this is where the struggles begin. For myself, I feel exhausted trying to keep up with the different needs, demands for fairness in a world that is completely opposite and children who are so far beyond privileged we could never explain in words they could grasp. So, we simply do our best, continually exposing them to the world beyond their unconscious privilege, loving them for who they are and what they do and will bring to this world, knowing in some way our paths are linked with purpose, for now.
As consciously aware parents, we do have a responsibility to speak to our kids about the world we live in and perhaps the role they could play in bringing a better future. Empowering them with knowledge, inspiration and support to grow into citizens who are aware of a greater perspective. Giving them a sense of belonging within this big world allows them to see their own purpose and grow from that space.
Have difficult conversations with your kids, get down to the nitty gritty and give details you feel uncomfortable with. Do not hold back, as they will one day learn any way, why not allow them to grow a perspective from a young, pure view. Teach them to be reflective of their part in the family, community, and society. Teach them to see others potential, not their weakness and trust they will find their way even if they seem off track now.
When we see them for their deepest potential and treat them from this space, they will naturally go there. Never giving them credit to understand or handle difficult topics or discussion significantly limits their potential. Let them go, let them fall, let them ask you for help. Do not be there all the time, this teaches them resilience, problem solving and strengthens their core. They need to know you are there, but they need to not rely on you for their own journey… This my friends is my daily challenge and goal… Join us in raising a consciously aware and strong future!