When anger rises, tears fall, emotions boil over leaving confusion or frustration, where do you go? Do you jump in the river of irrational fears and assumptions? Do you fly off into a cloud sitting far beyond all that is happening? Or do you go inward, where the root of these emotions live and began taking form?

For some the easiest path is to simply become a part of the fiery pit, fueling the flames higher and higher. Our anger, judgements, harsh, regretful words thrown into the air between ourself and the other soul standing in front of us. The heart may feel conflicted, yet the anger felt so good in that moment and necessary to let it loose for all to feel and experience.

While others may simply check out physically or mentally, perhaps both. Retreating to a space deniability feels natural, needed and justified as drama is simply not necessary. Keeping quiet is the logical perspective, therefore checking out feels healthy in those difficult moments.

While there may be obvious variations of the above reactions to intense swirling energy, our hearts always feel the truth. When we get angry and fuel the fire we feel the burn after. We feel the same harshness within our own being. When we flee the scene mentally or physically we miss the entire journey, opening our heart to feeling this guilt or insecurity. We also bring those events into our life in bigger way until we can no longer deny them.

Alcohol, medicinal supplements, or other forms of medicine seem to dull the pain. For that moment a false escape is given. The emotions still exist. They never go away. They never dissipate on their own. So, this my friend is when I ask, “How far are you willing to go?”

In that moment can you take a second and feel, listen and react with your heart, rather than your mind/ego? Those of us with more intense fire, can we take a longer pause and trust patience will bring the heart forward? Those who prefer to check out, can you stay, be present and simply listen and allow yourself to feel, then speak with anything that comes to you, no matter how hard, jumbled or sense it does not seem to make.

We all can grow in this space. We all can learn to see the others perspectives a little more. We all can let down our own guards, insecurities and fears to feel where the truth of the emotion is coming from. Avoid that quick reaction, take a night off from dulling the pain and simply be within yourself. Take a tour and learn who you are emotionally, what fuels you, what soothes you, what emotions do you avoid? This space is deep, dark and filled with lots of shadows. It is absolutely beautiful!!!

Many blessings to you all.